Several of my friends have made comments like this on their blogs, and I don't want them or anyone else to believe I think they are bad mothers...I was the exact same way! It was one of my biggest fears as a homeschooling mom - we would all be stuck in the same house and be at each other's throats in no time.
Then I made the mental shift of changing roles - from mom to teacher/mother. I took back the God-given responsibility of being my children's teacher 24/7. This made all the difference. Knowing that I was now responsible for all the minute details that I always overlooked, "Oh, they'll learn that in school..." was no longer applicable.
When [my] child approaches [me] and asks a difficult question such as, "Mom, what is the fastest jet?" Instead of giving some quick answer, we go together and find the answer. I LOVE the internet! One day my daughter asked about glass blowing, we were able to find a documentary (enlightening and entertaining for her and me) on Youtube. Another day we learned the history of the Star Spangled Banner and its significance. The entire experience resulted from a spelling word. They would never be able to stop class in Public school, go to the internet, print out the lyrics, find Francis Scott Key's experience, and hear old phonograph recordings of the National Anthem. With Homeschooling, this is always a possibility.
If there is one thing I want my children to learn, it is that they can always learn more, to never stop asking questions, and then go find the answers to those questions.
One other HUGE difference for me is making the conscience choice to be patient. It's not easy having 3 kids age 4 and under that need my attention. It seems the oldest two suck up a lot of my time, it's a balancing act. However, how I react to it is much different. If one child interrupts I simply state, "I'm working with X right now and I'll be with you when I'm done." They have learned to accept and respect this, just as they would have in public school.
Now that we've been homeschooling for a while, I have found the exact opposite to be true of my earlier fear. Instead of being at each other's throats, having my children home has filled our home with more love and kindness. Before homeschooling, they seldom would ALL play together and, if so, it was for a very short time. Now it is a daily occurrence and often I have to ask them to get to work or they would play their imaginative games all day together!"