In our culture true friendships seem far and few between. We mistakenly confuse the superficial friendliness as we smile and say hello to the various people in the blur of our lives as true friendship.
Sad as that is, we can make the effort to change the depth of our friendships enriching our lives and those around us in the process.
Joseph Smith said, " I would esteem it one of the greatest blessings, if I am to be afflicted in this world, to have my lot cast where I can find brothers and friends all around me."
How can we bring this blessing into our lives?
Make use of your friends by being of use to them.
A true friend finds ways to serve friends. At a local nursery I once ran into someone I knew only by name. She was picking out a tomato plant and asked if I could help her plant it. By my willingness to preform that small service, I grew to know this sweet friend who is now a surrogate grandmother to my children. My entire family has been blessed in countless ways by this friendship. Such a small act of helping in a garden, brought many blessings of friendship not only to myself but also to my entire family.
Find common ground. To make it easier to find common ground, you should enlarge your ground. Donald Latunahina
Recently I had a friend of a different faith come to me asking about the Latter Day Saint practice of prayer not because she was interested in our faith, but because she has a friend who is LDS that she wanted to help. She wanted to ask us to pray for her friend, so her friend could feel some comfort in a difficult time. What an example of enlarging her ground for a friendship!
At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more more verdict, or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent.
Let's get real. True friendship takes an investment of time. How are we as Latter Day Saint homeschooling moms suppose to fit that investment of time into our already busy lives? The same way we fit anything else of value into our lives--prioritize. We manage to get the house sparkling for the day we've invited the missionaries over for dinner. We manage to make sure our children's church clothes are perfectly ironed for the primary program. We manage to put on make-up and do our hair for date night. Let's manage to fit time into our lives for friendships.
A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else.
Sometimes life is hard, and one doesn't know what to say. Or a friend might make choices you don't agree with. Those are the times most of us need a friend the most. We need to hear, " I'm sorry or Life isn't fair or You are still loved." How much better would those dark times in our lives be, if we had a friend who could do that for us? Let's have the courage to be that friend!
Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Walk beside me and be my friend.
Albert Camus (also attributed to Maimonidies)
What are some ways you have found to have true friendship in your life?
Emily Tan blogs as MissMOE at Homeschooling While Living the Life of Easier while trying to also be a good friend to those that come into her life.