February 26, 2012

Unplanned

Almost one month ago I gave birth to our fifth child and first boy. We started our school year back last July so that we could take things easy for a while before and after the baby came. I thought I was prepared. And I pretty much was. For the birth. Not for what came two weeks later. My recovery was slower than usual. I just didn't feel well. I kept thinking it was because I'm just not as young as I used to be. Still, something didn't feel right. I was having some chest pain and trouble breathing. It finally got so bad that I couldn't get a good breath at all or even talk without coughing. I called my doctor thinking it was asthma. They told me to immediately go to the ER and get checked. Long story short, on Valentines Day I was hospitalized with severe, big (saddle) Pulmonary Embolisms filling both my lungs as well as a lung infarction. I had no idea what this meant. I was listening to the doctors and nurses telling me how lucky I was to be here. It wasn't until alone in my dark hospital room later that night that I understood this was a life threatening situation and boy had I been watched over and extremely blessed! I was separated from my baby and family for five days while we waited for the blood thinners to work and thankfully I was allowed to return home. My amazing husband kept the house running while taking care of five kids, one a newborn! Now, however, I'm learning that this is a slow and painful recovery. I want nothing more than to return to life and my daily duties. But, that's just not going to happen for a while and what I need to learn is patience. Life just does not always go how we plan! Right now I'm wondering how we are going to get back into school when I've barely got energy to take care of my newborn. This teacher doesn't have a substitute to call in! I guess this is a learning situation. We will have to take it one day at a time. We are all learning lessons in patience, faith, blessings, depending on each other and others, accepting help, priorities and especially relying on a loving Heavenly Father, who is aware, and His plan. School learning will take place again, right?

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Cherie' said...

The great thing about homeschooling is that they learn at a faster pace than the rest bc they don't have to work around a schools schedule. You just take as much time as you need to recover and pick up when you are ready. Heavenly father will be there to guide you. Get well soon!!

Amanda said...

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with such a challenge amongst a big family as yours. I hope you recover well and that you're husbands strength remains :)

Anaise said...

Take care of yourself. Take care of your newborn baby. Take care of the day to day needs that appear. Right now the best learning your kids can get is that babies and mommies are important and serving our families is how we try to be like Jesus. School learning can come later--even several months later. Keep the goal in your mind and eventually the time will be right for you to start school again. But the time is not right yet.

Tristan said...

I'm feeling for you! My newest little one is 6 weeks old (baby #7) and he's come with medical needs. Nothing is going like it did after my previous 6 births/babies and we're still adjusting. What I've learned over 10 pregnancies and 7 births in 11 years is that I have to focus on family and the gospel. Everything else is extra.

One thing that can reach every child at the same time academically is reading a book out loud (or listening to one on audio book together) and talking about it. If you're really feeling good on a particular day you can squeeze more learning from that one reading by assigning a spelling word or two from the reading, a letter to focus on for younger ones, having children write about their favorite part of the day's reading, encouraging them to act out the story or tell what they think will happen next. If you want handwriting have them copy a sentence from the story. Keep it simple and they'll still get tons out of it. If you have older children assign them to do the reading aloud, have them research more about something from the day's reading (a person, place, animal, time period, etc).

Praying your recovery goes smoothly!

Rebecca said...

Someone once told me that children will learn whether we teach them or not. It's so true! Even though that is not the ideal situation, I have clung to it during hard times. I think there is a blog post written by one of the contributors on here (Dana?) titled, "The Baby IS the Lesson". That might be helpful. I need to re-read it because I have also been blessed with a little guy ~ 10 weeks ago. I agree with what everyone else has said......take care of you and the baby and other NEEDS as they arise. The rest will wait. So sorry that you have to go through this.

Plain and Precious said...

We do foster care and so get children on the spur of the moment. Life can get pretty out of control really quick.
Some of the lifesavers I have found that help during a transition are websites like Starfall . com and dance mat typing. If your kiddos are older, there are plenty more that can keep them going with math, science, and reading. Also, we utilize educational video's from the library and books on CD's. The kids really enjoy this kind of media learning, and I get the extra time I need to adjust.
Learning DOES take place in so many different ways.
Hoping your recovery is soon!

Karen said...

Just wanted you to know that although we may be strangers, there is one more prayer said to Heavenly Father for you today. Blessings your way...
Warmly,
Karen
www.layers-of-learning.com

Jessica said...

Thank you everyone for the kind words and helpful suggestions. I truly appreciate them all feel uplifted! :)