January 13, 2014

New Year, New You!

I had a baby girl the end of October, and honestly the last 2 months are almost a blur.  My scheduled date to post in Nov and Dec just came and went in the blink of an eye without me even realizing it until it had past. 

But, I’m back!  It’s a New Year and a New ME!

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I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions, I mean who really keeps them anyways?

But I do strive to do better each and every day!  Lately I feel like I have been yelling entirely too much….so I’ve made a goal to STOP IT!

 

I’ve come upon a few articles recently that have really spoken to me.

The Important Thing About Yelling

The Day I Stopped Saying Hurry Up!

The Bully Too Close To Home

And then there was the first Sunday of the this month (and year), we are now switched to the 830 time slot, and I spent most of the morning yelling for everyone to get ready and get out the door!  I knew I shouldn’t , I knew it wasn’t the right thing to do, I knew it was not conducive to the spirit of Sunday…but I couldn’t help it!  I took a deep breath, I decided that if we were late it wasn’t the end of the world, and I removed myself from the situation. 

I realized then that I CAN control how I react, I need to remain calm, I need to take a breath, and if I HAVE to, I need to REMOVE myself and come back. 

I stumbled upon this article by The Red Headed Hostess, and I bought the ebook…and I’m trying hard to pose the question in my own mind….What Would A Holy Woman Do? 

So far, I really feel like it has made a huge difference, our days are smoother, I’ve seen an improvement in my relationship with my 7yo, I’m hoping it improves the relationships my children have with each other as well. 

I’m not perfect, I still sometimes yell….but I’m trying to become more aware and more in control of it.  I’ll be honest though, it’s exhausting…but it is SO worth it!

I have found that feeling better about myself is helping.  I get up each morning a tad earlier, I get dressed in nice clothes, I comb my hair…it’s the little things that help. 

It’s impossible to get up before my oldest, but I’ve found that if I try to get up before the other 3, I’m able to get a few things done, we can start school on time, and I’m not feeling rushed.  Being rushed stresses me out (hence the Sunday meltdown).  I’m finding ways to better manage my time and get done what I need to.  I’m feeling more accomplished, more at ease, and it shows in my attitude towards my family!

2014 is going to be full of changes…this is just one of many!

It’s a New Year…..what is your goal for becoming a NEW (or BETTER) YOU?

Jen is a mother to 3 boys with a girl on the way (due Oct 28th).  She is finishing up her second official year of homeschooling. She has a Master of Science in Early Childhood Education and worked with young children for many years before having her own. She likes to read, cook and get crafty. She is an Usborne Books Consultant and blogs at Chestnut Grove Academy.

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Cara said...

Good post!

Whenever I'm rushing, I tell myself that it's because I didn't start preparing early enough...makes it hard to be short with the kids when it's my own fault that we're running late.

We're all learning to be better versions of ourselves. Anger, rushing, frustration--those are hard things for me, too. Super hard with a newborn, so don't be too hard on yourself. :) You're doing so well!

Jen Altman said...

Thanks! and the rushing thing is so true! lol But really that Sunday, it was my husbands fault ;) Nah, I know both of ours really (but why is it I always seem to be more later when he is involved??) haha